Dr. Jay Warren
Dr. Jay Warren has dedicated his career to helping people live happy and healthy lives and now specializes in wellness care for pregnant women and babies. Dr. Jay practices at the CAP Wellness Center – a fully integrated, multi-disciplinary prenatal, post-partum and pediatric wellness center in San Diego, CA. He is a member of the ICPA (International Chiropractic Pediatric Association), APPPAH (the Association or Pre and Perinatal Psychology and Health) and the host of the podcast “Healthy Births, Happy Babies”, where he talks to experts in the natural birth and holistic parenting field every week. Dr. Jay also likes to enjoy an active lifestyle as a surfer, a yogi and a volleyball player – although he’s becoming more of a runner now that his son, Niko, is 4 years old.
Having a Guy on the Show
We talked a bit about how important it is to learn from guys and what their perspective on breastfeeding is. Dr. Jay says that guys can sometimes be lost in all this pregnancy, birth and postpartum stuff. At the CAP Center, he is noticing that lots of Dads ares showing up and taking hypnobirthing and breastfeeding classes. It is important for him to have the same information as well as the moms so that the couple can be this unified front. Dads role is holding the space, to be the protector. Once Dads are educated about birth and breastfeeding, they quickly realize how cool it all is and want to be a partner in all this. They learn that it is not just a mom thing, but it is a whole Family Affair.
Preparing for Breastfeeding
He and Effie had many conversations about breastfeeding. He had learned so much information about natural childbirth and breastfeeding during his years as a chiropractor student. He just knew this is the path that he wanted to follow and yet also recognized that a lot depended on the woman and her choices. They did have a planned homebirth. The pregnancy went well and the birth went well. Effie was totally looking forward to breastfeeding and assumed this is what she would do.
First Day of breastfeeding…… and beyond –
He latched right away. She had wonderful skin to skin time together. He breastfed well the whole first day, however, she began noticing a high level of pain during breastfeeding. They had a home visit with a lactation consultant. Ties were ruled out and low supply was an issue. Over the course of the next few days, it became apparent that Effie had a very low milk supply.
Dr. Jay said that he felt powerless during this time period. He could easily take care of the household and much of the baby care. However, he could not fix the breastfeeding and this made him feel very frustrated. Since he did not want to burden his wife, he kept all these feelings to himself while he worked hard to educate himself to try and find out how to fix this. He was so into looking for answers that he feels he went overboard in making suggestions to Effie about what she could be doing. Ultimately, he responded to Effie’s plea to relax a bit and let go of giving her all the help and suggestions as it was too overwhelming. Dr. Jay definitely took this to heart and backed off a bit. He called in the experts and let them be of help.
What he learned ultimately is that Effie was in a lot of pain with breastfeeding and that it largely had to do with supply. They did all they could to boost supply with various galactagogues for a whole weekend. Niko continued to lose weight as she took supplements and pumped and yet the supply did not increase. They switched to formula as they tried to increase her supply. After 2 weeks the supply did not increase and they both realized that that Niko was going to be formula fed. This was very difficult at first, with a lot of guilt particularly about what was wrong with her body. She did finally come to terms with how she was feeding her baby
There was a lot of chaos in the household up to this time. Once the decision was made to formula feed, the tension in the household was released. Dr. Jay said that one day he came home from running errands and he could feel the energy in the house had changed. Effie was upset and crying because she now realized that Niko had been hungry and he now had a full belly. As Niko was sleeping calmly, they both realized that it will all be okay. Switching to formula was in the best interest of their family.
Dr. Jay’s feelings about any guilt associated with formula feeding –
He had concerns about being judged because he was a chiropractor, working in a Wellness Center, where the focus is on natural birth, breastfeeding and parenting. He was concerned initially and was concerned about sharing his story. As he began to talk and opened up and shared his story about how difficult breastfeeding was, he realized that this was an interesting parenting story, rather than just a breastfeeding story. The concentration was on newborn parenting and how couples make decisions and work through issues.
We tend to isolate ourself because we don’t want anyone to know that we don’t know it all. Dr. Jay feels that it was helpful to the other providers, who are all females, to hear that he and Effie did have struggles, that life was not perfect and yet they were able to work it out when things don’t go our way. Dr. Jay is a helpful reminder to me to ensure that the guys are treated as an equal partner.
CAP Wellness Center and Happy Birth, Healthy Babies –
The podcast is Happy Birth, Healthy Babies. The focus for the podcast is for pregnancy, childbirth, early childhood development and early postpartum care. Dr. Jay really enjoys the benefits of hosting this show as it is exciting getting to listen to and learn from some amazing guests.
The Center which is located in San Diego. It is named after Dr. Cap, an Obstetrician who is naturally oriented.
Inside the CAP Wellness Center, they offer parents a variety of classes. In addition to free breastfeeding groups, they also have experts in prenatal and postpartum care. This includes – chiropractoric care, massage therapists, prenatal yoga instruction, newborn care, acupuncturist, and various birth and infant care classes. Dr. Jay is the only provider for chiropractic care. He treats a lot of kids with birth trauma, latching problems. or colic. He enjoys working with pregnant woman so that babies come into this world ready to go and not coming in with traumas that they need years to unwind.
We talked about how nice it would be if all communities had a Wellness Center such as the CAP Wellness Center that all mothers and babies could benefit from. I wonder if this could be franchised?
Lori J. Isenstadt, IBCLC
Lori Jill Isenstadt, IBCLC is a huge breastfeeding supporter. She has spent much of her adult life working in the maternal health field. Once she became turned on to birth and became a childbirth educator, there was no stopping her love of working with families during their childbearing years. Lori became a Birth doula and a Postpartum doula and soon became a lactation consultant. She has been helping moms and babies with breastfeeding for over 25 years. Lori founded her private practice, All About Breastfeeding where she meets with moms one on one to help solve their breastfeeding challenges. She is an international speaker, book author and the host of the popular itunes podcast, All About Breastfeeding, the place where the girls hang out. You can reach Lori by email at: [email protected] or contact her via her website: allaboutbreastfeeding.biz/contact
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